how to discreetly ask for weed

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Now I am many years out of college, and my dealer connection moved to Portland but I would still would like to smoke now and again, and yet, I have no freaking clue how to find a source.

Demographic info: I’m 28, female, and single, live in a smallish city in the Hudson Valley about 1 hour north of NYC with a significant college stupid population + a number of Jamaican and Haitian immigrants, with a nice cross section of folks living around me. There are a few smoke shops in the area, but they are scattered around everywhere. I can smell weed when I walk down the street so I know that people around me who have it, but I don’t know how to take the next step here and find someone who will sell to me.

I know weed is not legal in this country – please no lectures on that. I also know the likelihood of the cops in my hood caring about me and my pathetic display of sometimes smoking one joint a month is slim to none. I just want to know how I, as someone who lives in a small city full of pot-smokers and no longer has a dealer, gets pot. If anyone can help, that will be great. Thanks.

Are there any music venues in your city that feature a lot of weed-friendly acts who in turn draw a weed-friendly crowd?

(Not a smoker myself. This answer is the first thing that came to mind.)
posted by jason’s_planet at 1:21 PM on April 13, 2013

Hudson Valley mefite. There are not many metafilter meet-ups around here, and I don’t know that they’d be fruitful for this, anyway.

Not that I would mind if they were, but *shrug*
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 2:14 PM on April 13, 2013

Casually say to a friend/co-worker/neighbour, “Y’know, I was walking down the street the other day and I could smell weed – and, when I started thinking about it, I realized that I don’t know anyone around here who sells it..unlike when I was in college!”

If your friend knows someone, or is someone, who deals, they’ll tell you. Then, depending on how direct you’re feeling, you can say, “OH, HOOK ME UP!” or some variant.

If your friend is not a weed-person or had an issue with weed, they’ll say something like, “Oh, man, it’s awful how you smell that everywhere now, isn’t it?” and you can smile and shake your head and make a mental note to NOT invite that person over to hang out when you finally procure the weed from elsewhere.

If you know any of the people on your street, even to say “Hey!” when you make eye contact, you can also say, “Hey, that smells great!” next time you smell what they’re smoking and, chances are good, you’ll be offered some. You can then work that into a conversation about how you can get more in the future.

Most of the people I know who smoke are happy to tell you where they got it – but they’re not going to walk up to someone who’s given no indication of being interested.
posted by VioletU at 2:29 PM on April 13, 2013 [6 favorites]

I’m assuming that you’re near Vassar? I went there about five years ago; there are a ton of students who are friendly and can hook you up.

Just wander around on the quad or by Sunset Hill and ask people who are lazing around smoking cigarettes if they can help you out. Dress like a college student and just seem nice. Someone there will know.
posted by k8lin at 3:01 PM on April 13, 2013

When I was in Canada with my friends several years ago, I asked a taxi driver “Hey, do you know where we can get a smoke?” He said “What kind of smoke?” and I responded “the special kind.” He ended up selling us pot right out of his car.

I don’t think you’ll have much trouble with that approach since New York State has decriminalized marijuana – as long as you’re not possessing over 25 grams (0.88 ounces) or less of cannabis it’s just a civil offense that you’ll only be ticketed for.
posted by wolfdreams01 at 7:46 PM on April 13, 2013 [1 favorite]

Ask MetaFilter Now I am many years out of college, and my dealer connection moved to Portland but I would still would like to smoke now and again, and yet, I have no freaking clue how to find a